Parents often say things unintentionally that leave a lasting impact on their older children. Though the words may seem harmless, they can hurt deeply — making the elder child feel less loved or less important, especially after the arrival of a younger sibling. Over time, this emotional pain can create distance and misunderstanding within the family.
Parenting expert Pushpa Sharma, in a recent Instagram video, shared four common statements that parents should avoid saying to their elder children — and what to say instead.
According to Pushpa Sharma, telling your child to “act like the eldest” can make them feel pressured and unacknowledged. Instead, try saying, “Your feelings matter too. Tell me how I can help.” This approach helps them feel supported rather than burdened.
Suppressing emotions can damage a child’s emotional health. Sharma suggests replacing this with, “It’s okay to cry or feel upset. I’m here to listen.” This reassures the child that expressing emotions is normal and accepted.
While parents may say this out of appreciation, it can unintentionally make the child feel overwhelmed or responsible for things beyond their age. Instead, communicate balance — show gratitude without burdening them.
This statement often creates unnecessary pressure. Sharma advises saying, “I just want you to try your best.” Every child learns at their own pace, and feeling supported builds confidence rather than fear of failure.
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