Steps for Self-Discovery: Some Bollywood films are a mirror of the society. Be it actress Shilpa Shetty’s film ‘Sukhi’ or actress Sania Malhotra’s film ‘Mrs.’ These films showed the suppressed emotions of women beautifully and deeply. These films feel like their own stories to some women. Working all day long in the kitchen and for the household members, molding oneself as per their liking, at night pleasing the husband and getting neither praise nor help in return. Despite spending their entire life in the name of family, some women still feel cheated.

compromise is true to some extent

Sociologist Ruchika Sharma says that in every marriage both husband and wife have to make some adjustments. But this should be a joint effort of both. If the wife alone tries to change herself and forgets herself in this journey, then it is completely wrong. Love, affection and sacrifice all together strengthen the foundation of the family. It is not the wife’s responsibility alone. The new family is a stranger to the new daughter-in-law, it is the duty of every member of the family to support the daughter-in-law. If despite your best efforts your family and husband are not able to understand you, then you should choose your path. The decision taken by Richa in the film was right. The girl must stand up for her existence.

It’s not just your responsibility to make you happy

In a video posted on social media, psychiatrist Shridhar Chandak says that generally in Indian families, girls are taught that you have to keep everyone happy in your in-laws. But when you consider it your sole responsibility to please everyone, you lower your own standards. It can never be anyone’s responsibility to make someone happy. Because no matter what you do, you cannot make everyone completely happy.

Expectations can be divided into two scales

Actually, expectations can be divided into two scales. Neutral positive and neutral negative. ‘You didn’t do what I expected, but that’s okay.’ At the same time, if the work is done as per expectation then expressing gratitude to the other person is a positive attitude. Whereas for people with neutral negative thinking, no matter what you do, they never become happy. It is like a sieve, no matter how much water is poured into it, it can never be filled. On the other hand, whatever work you do, they consider it as your responsibility and do not even thank you for it.

understand the other side too

Psychologist Shridhar Chandak says that you also have to understand that fights happen in every family. This is very normal. But if these fights are happening too much then it depends on you how much you can tolerate. The scale of happiness and sorrow, joy and happiness are different for everyone. How long to tolerate these is everyone’s personal choice. However, in another video, the psychologist also explained to the girls that gathering their anger and exploding together like Richa did is not a solution. You should express your anger and resentment from time to time, so that a solution can be found. If nothing else, this will put your mind at ease. Second, flatly refuse to do any work you cannot do. This may make the other person feel bad at first, but gradually they will also start understanding the circumstances.