Nowadays, hookups between coworkers at work have become common. We spend most of our time with our colleagues, including talking, laughing and sharing the stress of work. In such a situation, it is natural to be attracted towards someone.
This situation creates difficulty because you meet that person every day. Their little things seem special to you, whereas for them it is normal behaviour. Gradually, you start analyzing their reactions, way of speaking and behaviour, which leads you to fall into the trap of overthinking. This not only disturbs your mind but also has a negative impact on your work.
It is important to understand that the other person does not have the same response to every emotion. If he doesn’t see you the same way, that’s his choice, and accepting it is the first step to moving on. Repeatedly hoping that he will change will only make you more unhappy. Therefore, it would be better for you to accept the truth quickly.
If your emotions are bothering you, creating some distance is a good option. This doesn’t mean that you should be rude, but that you can minimize unnecessary conversations. When you give yourself some space, your emotions also gradually start getting controlled.
Many people try to suppress their emotions, but this increases tension inside. It is better to find a way to get them out, such as journaling, talking to a friend, or spending time in a hobby. When you channel your energy in the right direction, your heart also starts feeling lighter.
Questions arise in your mind again and again, like ‘Why did he do this?’ or ‘Does he like me too?’ But the truth is that if someone likes you, he will give you clear signs. So, instead of overthinking about every little thing, try to understand the situation directly.
You are not meant to be a substitute for anyone. You want a partner who values you as much as you value him. Sometimes we start liking someone because he is around us and makes us feel good. But not every good looking person is right. So, understand your value and wait for the person who loves you with all his heart, without any illusions.
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