News India Live, Digital Desk: In the changing times, the meaning of relationships and the problems arising in them are also becoming modern. After ‘ghosting’ and ‘gaslighting’ now a new word is in discussion ‘Ghostlighting’. This word is a mixture of two dangerous behaviors, which can break any person mentally. According to psychologists, this is a method of emotional manipulation in which the partner not only ignores you, but also starts questioning your memory and mental state. If you are feeling suffocated in your relationship, it is important to recognize these signs.

1. Disappearing without notice and returning suddenly

The first sign of ghosting is that your partner stops talking to you without any concrete reason or notice (Ghosting). When he returns after disappearing for several days, he behaves as if nothing had happened. He makes excuses to ignore your phone calls and messages and makes you feel lost.

2. Questioning your memory (Gaslighting)

When you question your partner’s disappearance or their behavior, they try to prove you wrong instead of accepting the truth. They might say, “I told you, you forgot” or “You blow everything out of proportion.” This is called ‘gaslighting’, where the perpetrator makes himself the victim and you the culprit.

3. Avoidance of conversation and the ‘silent treatment’

The person doing ghostlighting closes all lines of communication. When you want to express your feelings, they resort to the ‘silent treatment’. They don’t answer your questions or brush it off by saying, “We’ll talk about this later.” This behavior creates a feeling of uneasiness and insecurity in the other person.

4. Holding you responsible for your mistakes

In this situation the partner does not take responsibility for any of his mistakes. If the relationship is deteriorating or there is bitterness in their behavior, they also blame it on you. They make you feel that you are the cause of the problem in this relationship, which completely shakes your self-confidence.

What to do and how to avoid?

Experts believe that to avoid such toxic behavior, first determine your boundaries. If your partner is repeatedly disappearing and not respecting your feelings, ask yourself whether this relationship is worth your peace of mind. Express your views clearly and seek help from family, friends or a professional counselor if needed. Remember, no relationship is bigger than your dignity and mental health.